The marriage is not over just because your spouse feels it is. Something profound must have happened in your relationship, but there is always a possibility that the divorce can be avoided and your marriage saved. It is going to take some work, and you are going to need to be dedicated to the goal of saving your marriage. And when this ruff patch has passed, you and your spouse will be a well oiled marriage machine.

Here are some tips to help you start the relationship rebuilding process.

1. Start dating your spouse again. Your spouse may be tired of the same old routine. Start taking your spouse out on dates to rekindle the relationship. Do dinner and a movie. Or go to a concert. Or you could go on a shopping date and go to the mall for a few hours.

2. Listen to your spouses wants and needs. We all have needs. Your spouse may just someone there to talk to. Even when they problem can not be fixed. They just may want someone to talk to.

3. Commit to the relationship. Spend a little less time at the bar and more time with the spouse and family. Work a little less overtime, or get off the couch and take the family to the park or on a camping trip. You need to be involved with your spouse to make the marriage work.

Saving your marriage will be a difficult task, but the reward at the end will be worth it.