Have you sat in vain listening to one of your girlfriends recount how she can't get her guy to commit wondering how on earth she got so involved with him anyway? Did you think that these women are just plain unlucky and you wouldn't fall for their tricks? If you read on I'll share with you the 4 part seduction and betrayal sequence that some men with commitment issues use.

At the beginning of any relationship most of us are cautious about giving our heart to the wrong guy, lest we get trapped with any of the men with commitment issues. But some guys, those who are not just indecisive when it comes to marriage, but who are intent on hurting those they love, end up treating women badly.

So how do these men with commitment issues act?

Read on through the 4 part seduction and betrayal process of our less than gallant commitment phobic guy.

Part 1

When you first meet a guy you may wonder why on earth he hasn't been snapped up already because he's such a sweetie. He's been charming, funny and quite open about his past. He pursues you with vigour and though you were unsure at first, you gave it ago- because why not?

So you settle into believing that this guy wants you and only you.

Part 2

So then things start to change- where once before he was all over you and talking about the future, now he seems more reluctant to go there. In fact you get the distinct feeling you've done something wrong but what?

Part 3

You notice that now you've become attached to him, yes you can see his bad points and you've even moaned to your girlfriends about this crazy guy you know, but you're beginning to like him a lot. Even though they look at you with suspicion that he is even a good guy, you justify his behaviour in a way that quells your doubts about him and your future together.

And you notice he has started to back away.

Part 4

For some strange reason things have taken a turn for the worse. The more he pulls away the more you want him closer, and the more he becomes an excuse ridden guy intent on making the problems all about you.

The bed isn't' right. He hasn't the time to see you. You're too needy. You expect too much from him. He's not ready to settle down. And to cap it all he has now become unresponsive. Your biggest argument ends it all and you're left bewildered.

Little did you know that this is the process of seduction and then betrayal and it's only in hindsight that you can notice the signs which were there all the time.