Your boyfriend left you. He's gone and you will never get him back. These are the thoughts that you need to get out of your mind if you are going to get your ex boyfriend back. Another thing you need to do is quit putting all the blame on yourself. Wondering where you failed. What could you have done to make things better for him? If you had it to do over you would have done this or that. This is not going to get you anywhere. Sure, you had a part in the breakup but it takes two to make a relationship and it takes two to break it up.

In fact you might be putting all the blame on the wrong person, maybe your ex didn't appreciate a good thing when he had it. Some men cannot leave well enough alone. Once they feel things are going too smooth they have to cause problems. They want to see you beg them to come back. It is a big boost to their ego. The best thing to do is surprise them and don't go running after them. This can wake them up in a hurry.

Then there is the other type that runs when their feelings for a woman start getting too deep. They are afraid of responsibility. This comes from an inferiority complex that might go all the way back to their childhood. But whatever the cause, it does not make the heartache of the breakup any easier to bear and you still are faced with the problem of how to get your ex boyfriend back. Here are 4 very effective tips to get your ex back:

- Be careful of what you say about your ex

Anything negative you say about your ex boyfriend could come back to haunt you later. If friends ask you what happened to your relationship just tell them you don't know for sure, it just got to where the two of you were not hitting it off anymore.

- Think of the biggest problems and how to fix them

Every relationship has it's ups and downs along the way, but it usually takes something pretty serious to cause a breakup. This is what you must root out. The main problem or problems and then come up with ways to fix them.

- Give your ex the space and time he needs

He needs to feel the loss of you. If you are missing him and trying to figure out how to get him back, give him the time to miss you and begin thinking of how he can get you back.

- Do not be too anxious

When he has decided that he needs you in his life, he will come looking for you. Be nice and courteous to him, but make him earn his way back into your heart. Do not bring up the past or try to get revenge by hurting him. Just make him show you that he wants to be back with you to stay.