Have you ever dated a guy who has a fear of relationship commitment so strong that you were left feeling confused and hurt? Have you ever wondered whether there was anything you could do that would change his behaviour?

Men who have a fear of relationship commitment will turn you into a paranoid and insecure creature if you let them get too close, too quickly, because if you do they will at first charm you into believing that they are the real deal and it's then that they can do the most damage.

4 Signs that you are with a guy who has a fear of relationship commitment

1. He is honest and upfront with you about his past.

When you are talking and getting to know each other, he doesn't hide the fact that his past relationships haven't worked out, in fact he gladly tells you all about the woeful event which of course makes you feel loved and special for him sharing this with you.

Don't fall for it, this open ploy should be a red flag- not by itself of course, but with the other indicators I will share with you.

2. He reveals even more about his past - personal details that hurt him greatly

Later as you settle into the relationship and you're curious about his ex wife for instance, he tells you how she was a bad mother, never cared for the children and was so selfish that he had to work 2 jobs and be both the mother and father even though he wasn't even living with them at the time.

He tells you how sad this made him feel and how worthless he felt as father to have left his children with a woman like that- or some such sob story.

This is to disarm you and make you feel sorry for him and what he has had to put up with. Again don't fall for it until you can verify it is the complete truth, because in any relationship breakdown there is always responsibilities placed in both people. Be wary of a guy who puts all the blame on his ex.

3. He tells you how different you are from other women

Another tactic of men who fear relationship commitment is to tell you how different you are from his ex and how he feels he can settle with you because you understand him. You are different in all the ways he likes and none of his exes had these qualities.

Be sceptical of any guy who makes you believe that you are his all and everything and he's not managed to find any woman with any redeeming qualities - this is unlikely in the event of things as each person you end up having a serious relationship with has some redeeming qualities.

4. He will reveal how he treats women

And lastly keep your ears open for any behaviour on his part that he has treated any of his ex girlfriends in a way that you wouldn't like. I'm not talking physical abuse here as that would be easy to detect, I'm talking about the general vibe around his attitude toward them.

Why do I want you to watch for this? Because if he has treated another woman badly then that is every indication that he will eventually do that same with you.