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This article is really about four basic principles, that if applied on a daily basis, will help you to overcome your depression, anxiety, mental health problems and ultimately live a happier life. They are:
• Impermanence & Interdependence
• Overcoming attachment and aversion
• Recognising your true nature of mind
• Compassion - doing things for the benefit of others
That's it! It really is that simple. On a daily basis this is what you need to do. And you need to live these principles for the rest of your life (that is the hard part). Here are some of my ideas of how you can more fully live these principles in your life.
• Realise that things change and nothing lasts for ever (impermanence). Think about this every day. Think about your death everyday. Think about all the things that are stable in your life (including your own life or marriage, job etc) and wonder what things would be like if your personal circumstances changed? How would you cope with this change? The answer is that you will be able to cope with these changes and that life would move on.
• Appreciate the things that you really like and dislike in this world? Call them for what they truly are...and that is attachment and aversion. For example, you may be really attached to your new car or new house or new friendship. Be aware of things in life that you are averse to. For example, you may be averse to your wife leaving you. Be aware of this as aversion and try not to avoid it from happening. If it is going to happen, there is nothing that you can do to stop it from happening. Try and reach the stage of non-attachment. For example, when you are going to work in the morning, you may be worried about losing your job or what your co-workers think about you? Try and work with this thought and try not to become too attached or averse to it or of possible scenarios from happening. This is when real liberation will occur.
• Realise that your mind is neither your thoughts nor your emotions. When you do get criticised for example, try not to take the criticism to heart too much. Remember they are not criticising you personally, they are criticising your behaviour, what your wearing, what you are saying. All of these things are not you. Avoid the temptation to justify yourself to others or for others to like you. None of this is required. Try to recognise your true mind and that will be enough. And vica versa, when positive things happen to you. Realise that your boss's praise is got nothing to do with you personally, it is about your work, what you are wearing, how you sound etc. Essentially to overcome your ego and develop self-esteem.
• Remember that the best way to get out of your mind, is to get into the mind of someone else. When speaking with other people, make it all about them. Really try and determine where they are coming from. Looking into their eyes, body language, what they are wearing and try to pick up on their stresses and concerns. Respond in words and introduce topics of conversations that bring it back to them. When you are doing an assignment (for a teacher) or a task at work for your boss, think about things from their perspective, what they are looking for?
Your task is really simple. Live by these four principles for the rest of your life and struggles with anxiety and/ or depression will be gone. It really is the fastest, quickest way I know towards overcoming negative emotions in life. I say this from a personal perspective as well as from a professional perspective, seeing the changes in my clients after they have started applying these principles in their life.
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