You are a mature dating individual now and you should know exactly what you want right? Well this is the case, but even more importantly it is important that you know what you don't want, and what you don't want is someone who is going to play with your feelings and emotions as a mature person, after all you decided long ago not to put up with this crap right? 

You will need to know when the person you are dating is ready to be in a relationship, and then make the hard choice of leaving or staying if you should determine they are not. This is all apart of growing up, you should not tolerate people who are not willing to give you what they know you want, especially when you have already make it clear. Look at some of these things you need to look at when you meet someone as a mature dating person. 

Knowing if you're in a relationship or not 

When you meet someone as a mature dating adult you should have no problem laying all of your cards on the table and telling them exactly what you want. It makes no sense to go around wondering if you are in a relationship or not. You need to know indefinitely, so don't be afraid to ask the other person. As a mature dating individual doing this should not come hard, because as you mature you lose your ability to put up with crap because as you mature you realize that you don't have to. Make sure you know if the person you're dating wants a relationship or not, and then act accordingly. 

Having all the signs of a relationship 

When you are just friends you'll know it. You'll also know when there is a relationship or at least the perception of one. Do you go out a lot with each other on a regular basis? Do you spend long amounts of time at each others house on a regular basis? Have you met their friends and been introduced to the family? If you have done all of these things then it is a definite sign you are in a relationship, so it only makes sense to ask the other person just so that you can have some confirmation. Having this confirmation will help you feel a lot better. 

Putting up with indecision and uncertainty 

Putting up with someone who cannot make up their mind as a mature dating adult is something you will come across from time to time. But as a mature dating adult you'll have to determine if you want to deal with this or not.  

You are at a stage as a mature dating individual where you don't have too much time to waste with someone who cannot make up their mind. If you want something from the relationship, or you're ready for it to move to the next level then you need to make this very clear to the other person. If they feel pressured that is fine, give them a little time, but not too much time.