When your ex boyfriend said he needed some space, you did not take it seriously. You thought he was just having a little snit and would be calling to say he was sorry. But that did not happen and you are beginning to wonder what you can do to get your ex boyfriend back. You have tried calling him, emailing him and sent several text messages but you got no answer. Now you are starting to get desperate. You really love the guy and don't want to lose him.

First - If you have been blasting him with phone calls, emails and text messages you are on the wrong track. He wanted space but instead you are harassing him. This will only make him withdraw more away from you. Men are emotionally wired differently than women and they must be allowed to assume the role of a male. When you become aggressive and chase him you are becoming the pursuer and he views that as his role. You lose the feminine qualities a man looks for in a mate. So, although you might feel desperate to know what happened and to get your ex back, you are going about it in the wrong way.

Second - He said he wanted space, so give him space. Let him have time to get himself together and think. You need to allow him to miss you and he cannot miss you if you are always around with your emails and text messages. In order to become part of his life and get your ex boyfriend back disappear for awhile. You won't lose him. In fact right now the last thing he needs is another woman. He is trying to figure out how to deal with the one he just left. In time he will need to fill the void in his life that only a woman can fill. If you have respected his wishes to be alone for awhile, his thoughts will return to you. He still will have deep feelings for you and will feel the need to be in touch with you.

Third - When he calls you be receptive. Act like nothing ever happened. Treat him like an old friend and keep a lively conversation going just as you would if you were catching up with what had been going on in your friends life and tell them the good things in yours. Make him laugh a lot and by no means mention the breakup. If he brings up the split, just say all friends have their differences but it does not have to spoil their friendship. This is the theme you want - friendship. Impress on your ex what good friends you are. How you understand each other and you will have your ex back in a hurry.